January Months at the Castle

The winter months in 21st Century Scotland can be surprisingly harsh. As the temperatures plummet we often lose our water. The house is on a private supply so the pipes freeze with the ground, and waiting for the thaw can often be a test of endurance, 8 weeks was the longest in the Winter of 2011, never to be forgotten. Long grubby days etched in our minds. Out of sheer desperation, we were forced to take up family membership of a Spa in Inveraray. So that winter, the girls learnt to swim, my skin never felt so soft and my car devalued rapidly with the 60 mile a day round trips.

Electricity is equally tenuous. In our decade here at Dunans Castle, we have spent weeks living by candle light and boiling water harvested with a pick axe from the burn.  We now have a small generator that can power a couple of computers and keep the basic day to day functions going, but some of our early experiences were a challenge.  I have many memories of huddling around the wood burning stove in our red shed, a tumble of children, dogs and he and me, bickering about who would brave the freezing cold air out-with our human duvet cocoon to grab a snack or a glass of ‘milky’, of the benumbed nights when I would wake in the wee hours for a baby feed, or a pee and lie in horror as my body registered the toe shriveling cold.

Another general challenge was day to day shopping.  One guest, husband of a friend, upon being forced by his wife to leave the comfort of his city existence for a long weekend in rural Scotland, asked me, somewhat hesitantly if I had a ‘thing’ about toilet roll. Startled, I replied no! Although I had not previously considered the matter, I had rather assumed my relationship with said domestic sundry, was normal. After a considered pause, he nodded thoughtfully and remarked it was just that he had never stayed in a house where there was so much, toilet roll in evidence, in bulk in fact!

He was quite right. In the downstairs loo, sits a huge old Jardinière that once belonged to my great grandmother, Lilly Lynn, a formidable matriarch, headmistress of a rural school, painter, tailor and all round ‘can do’ lady, the sort of Gal, who upon spotting the first ever ‘fitted kitchen’ in a ladies periodical, set about to build herself her very own version, which was so well built it outlived her inimitable spirit.

Said pottery inheritance was indeed full of toilet roll and sits to this day, usefully, in state, in the downstairs loo, full of loo roll!  In the guest shower room was a similar arrangement and again in the upstairs loo. So yes, on reflection, our guest did make a good point, we were well provided for on the toilet roll front, however, as I put to him, this was more about forward planning than an odd bottom fetish on my part!

Consider, says I, its 9pm on Sunday evening and you pop to the loo to discover no loo roll – eek, no late night garage, no minimart up the road, not even a 24/7 supermarket within an hours drive, bum! Quite literally, nothing open until Monday morning and even then a 1 and a half hour round trip!  Life at Dunans is all about forward and behind planning!

Running a household and ensuring everyone including our sundry animals are looked after takes a level of military planning, especially when the children were small, I now have a brain that shops in bulk, I can whip off a basic bi monthly shop in a snap, however when in Glasgow confronted with a ‘metro express mini-market’ option, small items, individually wrapped, in pack of 1 or 2 or in the case of cucumbers, a half, (what is that about)? I am often at a complete loss.

What I do love about living at Dunans are the local businesses that have become a welcome part of our lives, providing food and goods and taking the day to day pressure off. As of yet no-one runs a loo roll delivery company, however we get Robert from Fynest Fish, once a week, Bob, from 3K who delivers pet sundries once a month and a whole heap of local delivery companies who keep us ticking along, without constant recourse to the great gods, like Tesco and sundry other world dominating purveyors of food.

I also am proud that our rural life means we are really, really in contact with our food sources and seasons. My youngest daughter will happily pluck a pheasant and both kids know what the meat and fish they eat actually looks like from the beast it once was. Admittedly we are not well set to grow our own, despite my feeble attempts, rain, deer, rain and more rain, oft kills what we do grow, but we do buy locally grown when we can and we also have some great local, ethically sourced meat/dairy suppliers, so its win, win all the way.

Our Local suppliers – Support local: Buy Local: Create Sustainable Community living: Real Food

http://www.lismoregrassfedbeefandlamb.co.uk/
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http://www.goruralscotland.com/auchentullich
http://www.winstonchurchillvenison.com/foods-from-argyll/
http://dalmally.cylex-uk.co.uk/company/3k-supplies-17110739.html

How It all Began and how Dunans Castle found us!

Charlie and I lived and worked in London as a newly wed married couple, we explored the delights of being young and free in the great sprawling capital. Nights out, drinks parties, long walks in Richmond Park, packs of darling joyous friends. He and I lived, worked and loved our time together. Our shared practical passion was for the most part all about property. Bouncing from 1 modest flat conversion we moved onwards and upwards, living amidst plaster dust, feasting on late night takeaways and sleeping on blow-up mattresses. No job too small or too big, we were game on for it all.
Eventually we were living resplendently in our West London town house, life was tremendous, I was Acting, writing and designing, doing a bit of telly, going on tour, whilst he was publishing, building websites and learning computer programming. Then one day we discovered we were going to have a baby. I will never forget the feeling, the joy, the love and the overwhelming sense of something so momentous that had captured us both, we began to make those nebulous plans that hopeful parents do.
Then one bleak sunday morning, Charlie had nipped out for croissants and a paper, whilst I dozed in our beautiful sun filled bedroom, it all went terribly wrong. The next few hours, days are in all honesty still a blur, a dim but never forgotten memory always underpinned by a deeply rooted feeling of loss and pain. I had miscarried and our first baby was not to be.
For any couple who have experienced such a loss, my heartfelt blessings to you. Those unborn souls do stay with us, they are part of our journey always.
So for Charlie and I, this experience quite literally stopped us in our tracks, we decided we really did want a family, wanted to try for another baby and most of all we wanted to create a home, not in London, some where we could be grounded and with space about us, somewhere free and open and fresh. Both children of rural country upbringings, this felt right.
Next we went to visit my mother on the Isle of Arran, to share our sad news and recover. On the way off the island, travelling to visit Charlie’s father and stepmother on Lismore, we drove through a Glen, by the name of Glendaruel and at the top end of a long, long road, we spotted a ‘For Sale’ sign. Ever intrepid, we tipped down the drive and took in our first sight of the ruined Dunans Castle.
In awe, we stood on the bridge and gazed at the huge sad shell of a house. I held Charlie’s hand and looked into his bright clear eyes, shining, as ever with adventure and I knew our lives had just changed significantly, forever.
(The photo of me standing on the bridge was taken on the day we discovered Dunans). Note the high heels!
Footnote:
 For help and support and to understand about miscarriage contact:
http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk
Do speak out and share your experience, it happens to so many women and we should find the space to express our thoughts and feelings to help others, ourselves, and future generations, to move forward, to connect and heal.